How to Move On When Your Husband Leaves You (Why Me?)

It’s natural to think that divorce is a terrible thing. So much about it does feel terrible.

So many women I work with start our work together wanting to know, “Why me? What did I do to deserve this? Why does he get to move on with not even a slap on the wrist, and my life is completely destroyed?”

I do have an answer. And once you think about it a little, you might even agree with me.

Here’s what I have to say about the why of it all (and I tell some parts of my personal story that I’ve never shared before):

Not a video person?

Here are some of the highlights of what I share in the video:

  • What if you would never be able to do all the things you were meant to do . . . if you stayed in your marriage? Stay with me because, in the video, I explain what I mean about this.

  • What if divorce weren’t happening TO you?  What if it were happening FOR you? Again, I know this is a triggering idea, but stay with me. I explain.

  • But right now . . . owwwww. You can’t feel and know what your destiny is.  Not right now, in the midst of the shock and worry about what is going to become of you.  You might not even care because, every day, the pain is so great. The pain is true, too. It’s not something you should just ignore, or “get over.”

  • The message I want to give you today is that help is all around you.  But if you’re looking down, you can’t see it. You’ll feel so alone.

  • What if the fact that you’re watching this video right now is a sign?  A sign that things don’t have to be soooooo difficult. If you’ve been stuck in the same place for a long time, and you’ve given up on the life you wanted to have, it’s a sign. A sign to stop looking down and to look up: Because the answer is almost always right in front of you, but you haven’t been able to see it. (More on how to see the answer, and what to do —in the video.)

  • And, I share some embarrassing things about my own upbringing — things that predisposed me to have a less than amazing husband and marriage (you’ll have to watch the video to hear what I say about that).

Give it a watch. It will truly be worth nine minutes of your time. Sending hugs your way!