Divorce guest blogger: Everything is possible

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by Kathryn Pressly Hunter

Tout est Possible is French for Everything is Possible. I adopted this mantra, of sorts, last fall . . .

After a 24 year marriage, my husband left me for another woman in November of 2016. Having been with him since I was 16 and married at 20, it took me a hot minute to grasp my new world.

Dealing with all that comes with a level of rejection that could easily crush anyone: I chose to move on, heal and not dwell.

I decided very quickly that I was stronger than the storm that I faced. I chose to walk through my divorce not with anger and bitterness, but with self-respect and as much grace as I could muster.

I did, after all, have two young adults to lead who were equally as crushed as I was. I wanted to teach them grace and mercy and not anger and hatred; this world certainly has enough of that. Today, we still deal with some residual ripples of the divorce, but my kiddos and I are stronger together.

Now, back to my “mantra.”  Shortly after my divorce was final in April of 2017 -- maybe even a little before-- it’s like I started to awaken.  I began to dream again.  I began to make myself a priority:  to set some things forth in my life that would set my children and myself up for success. I began writing in a journal. In this new life, I no longer had “my person” and wanted to jot down my thoughts -- however random they were at times.

One day, I wrote:

“Power. I have power. I am worth having the power to make the decisions in my life. I hold the key to joy/success in my life through the power I have in my choices. My world is bigger than me. I am not a victim. I am a strong woman and can do anything I want in this life. I can be bold, my voice is there, but I have just always chosen to remain quiet. No more. Being meek only hurts me and mine. Not arrogance, but a boldness with complete kindness of heart, mind, and spirit.”

I decided now was the time to begin anything with the question “Is this what I want?”

As I began to walk in this -- although hard at times -- I found myself making positive calculated risks. This has led me to a new, amazingly positive career path which I am so excited about, a closer relationship with my children, and the self-motivating push to get out of my comfort zone. I still struggle with this, but each time becomes a little easier -- most recently,  yesterday, by beginning a Jujitsu Self Defense class.  Look out world!

I am proud of my progress. I have soooo much farther to go, but I am excited about life, learning, dreaming -- and making those dreams come into reality. Tout est Possible:  Yes, EVERYTHING is possible.

Kathryn Pressly Hunter lives in upstate South Carolina.  She loves to laugh, share time with those who mean the most to her, and strives to learn something new each day. After the discovery of her husband’s infidelity and facing divorce, Kathryn took a sharp turn from bitterness, anger, and defeat toward grace, positivity, and self-empowerment.