There are a lot of places we can go to for emotional support -- and not all of them involve humans, or even beloved animals.
One of the reasons so many of my clients feel absolutely desperate about finding a MAN is that they want someone else to take over. They feel they need someone who can take charge, because they feel powerless themselves.
It's so common to feel lonely after divorce. Most women lose at least some of the close friends they had while married. And the first wave of post-divorce dating relationships is often fraught with problems, and leaves divorcees with even less self-confidence than before.
Yet, it's important to find ways to have our emotional needs met -- even though it's likely we may not have someone available to provide the unconditional love we need.
Healing plants can be the answer. They're are always ready to help, and they're happy to become your friends.
Before you laugh and shake your head, I invite you to give this a try. It's wonderful.
Finding out which plants have a special relationship with you
Plants have healing life force energy, and it's fun (and comforting) to learn about various herbs to see which ones call you closer, and seem to want to have a relationship with you. Just as you may have a favorite flower that makes you feel happy every time you encounter it, certain aromatic herbs can also have a profoundly healing effect on you.
Now is a wonderful time to visit a garden center and make friends with all of the varieties of herbs you can get to know. Smell, gently touch, and see which ones draw you in. Take a few home and, if this doesn't sound too far out to you, meditate with them and ask them to be your allies in the healing of your heart and spirit. You can also look into their history and find out what healing and metaphysical uses these plants may have had for hundreds (or thousands) of years.
I bet you may already have a few favorite plants that you have loved since childhood. For me, special plants that have called out to me over and over again in my life include lavender, rosemary, basil, lilac, violet, lily of the valley, and sunflower.
Beloved plants give so much: You can enjoy the beauty of having them grow in or outside your home, you can enjoy many of them in cooking, and they assist your mood and strengthen your spirit at the same time. Using them in essential oil form can keep them with you, supporting you, throughout the day and night. You can turn to them when you need more energy, when you want to lift your mood, and even when you need a transformation from deep sorrow to the joy of simply being alive.
Not sure which plants are your special ones? You'll find out when you take that drive to your nearest garden center and see which herbs draw you in. The ones that appeal to you most have something special to share with you -- they have just what you need most.
How to get started with herbs to help you heal after divorce:
- Go to a garden center that will have many varieties of herbs on offer.
- Look, sniff, and gently touch.
- After touching, sniff your hands.
- Which herbs give you a special feeling of attraction (by the way they look, their scent, or just something you can't quite explain)?
- Choose one or two that you like especially well and take them home with you.
- Search online for the medicinal uses of these plants. You'll probably be astounded to find that they are offering to you exactly what you need right now.
- Meditate with the plant, and ask its advice on areas of concern right now. Sit quietly and see what comes into your mind. Do you receive an inspiration that helps you?
Let the plant queendom support you while you're sorting out the wayward humans in your life. Enjoy their calming and supporting influence.
Let me know if you try this!