Big thanks to everyone who has contributed responses to our Post-Divorce Holiday Blues-Busting Survey.
I thought you might like to know what women are most interested in when it comes to support over the holiday season.
I really love the way it's turning out -- because, based on your responses, you are very willing to learn to take time out for yourselves and are enthusiastic about using time this season to plan for a happier year to come!
So far, every single respondent to our survey wants:
1) a step-by-step process to help them use the holiday season to come up with a plan to totally transform their new year. Or, as I like to say, to "turn the blues into a blueprint."
Then, two desires tied for second place:
2) strategies to deal with loneliness during the season and to learn ways to nurture themselves this time of year instead of being overcome by stress and others' expectations.
So, how do you turn the blues into a blueprint, anyway?
The blueprint comes as the last step in our 5 *Very* Surprising Cures for the Post-Divorce Holiday Blues, and here's why. The whole 5-step process takes you through a journey of honoring yourself, and experiencing what it's like to put yourself first so that you can give out of your own abundance and not out of your own exhaustion and sadness.
You might have noticed that giving what you don't have to give never quite works as well as you'd like it to. Well, let's be honest. It never really works at all.
Maybe you've already been living your entire life that way, but now the warning lights are flashing and sirens are going off because -- after having gone through the entire divorce process, and having lost so much of everything that meant most to you -- it feels impossible to keep putting a good face on it, and sacrificing even more heavily than you've done before.
So, the blueprint is the fourth of the five steps in my program. You do it after you've taken specific (and fun) steps to remember who you are (or who you always meant to be), see exactly how you can scale back and remake the holiday season in a way that's fun for you, and even give yourself gifts (don't worry, you get to stay within your budget!).
I want you to have so much fun before you sit down to create your blueprint -- using nothing more than a journal, a pen, and maybe some fun art supplies. The blueprint is fun, not work. It's not about scheduling, outlines, flow charts . . . . In other words, it bears no resemblance to the drudgery you usually do every day.
It's all about dreaming your life, the way you want it to be. Not just where you want to be in your work, family, and financial lives, but how you want to feel every day. Realizing that how you feel is the key to what makes life beautiful. And, it's the key to what will allow your life to change in the ways you want it to.
UPDATE: Back in 2014, here's where we talked about all the aspects of the $149 program, which included a 40-page ebook, 5 audio classes, a private facebook group and more. Now, in 2016, I'd rather keep it simple and just give everyone the ebook as my free holiday gift to you. Please click here, download and enjoy!