Attraction Superpower #1: SMILE (No, really!)

Here's what personal magnetism is all about
One thing that's a common denominator among almost all of my Dynamic Divorcee coaching clients is a history of chronic LACK.

My women have lacked the ability to attract into their lives the kind of respect, attention, and adoration that they've craved.  There's often lifelong financial lack as well. Lack of respect and lack of love and attention as far back as childhood.

Very often, my women find it difficult to even conceive of being worthy of being treated  well.  There's a history of living with comments like, "Who do you think you are, a princess?" when asking for just the basics of respect from the men in their lives.

For the majority of my clients, being cherished by a man was nothing more than a dream -- a dream that was only fulfilled for other women, lucky women, smarter women, more beautiful women.  Fill in the blank.

What does this have to do with smiling?  More than you might think.

I have my clients start acting as if they already are the kind of woman who deserves the best treatment from everyone.  The nice thing about divorce is that you've just eliminated the person who, in many cases, has treated you the worst and has been in your life every day, making you feel less and less worthy.

Let's change that!  Let's use a simple smile to feel all-powerful and ready to change the world to move the way you want it to.

Your smile says "yes" to everything you want
Today's experiment is simple.  Invite goodness into your life by welcoming it with a warm and beautiful smile.

Try this today, ladies:  Everywhere you go, look straight ahead (not down at the ground), make eye contact, and smile.  Practice holding eye contact for a full second (count "one-one-thousand").  If you're an introvert, or even a not very me-me-me-centered extravert, this may feel strange.  And that's the reason to practice it!

You'll look approachable, positive, attractive (attract+ive), and you'll feel that way, too.  Keep tabs on all the good things that you attract as you use your new superpower.

You'll connect with others in all kinds of fun ways.  People will smile back, and you'll feel even happier.  You'll experience little kindnesses throughout the day. You'll find yourself starting up more conversations, with new exchanges, new experiences, and new opportunities as a result.  (See the illustration at the top of this post!)

And, take 8 minutes to watch this!

Want to know more about all the great things you receive for free when you smile?  You know I love TED talks, and here's one of the top ten most popular of all time, by entrepreneur Ron Gutman on the hidden power of smiling.

As always, I would love to hear your results!